January 13th, 2024 was the last time that I was intimate with a man hunni. Now at that exact time, I had not made the decision that, that would have been the last time, but God did, and He already knew the plan he had for me. About a week or two after this, I ended my relationship of about 3 years and made the decision to do things the right way, God’s way. 2026 marks two whole years that I have been abstinence. This journey has been so rewarding and at the same time very challenging. It has only been God’s grace and His mighty strength that had gotten me thus far. I made a commitment to Jesus and myself that the next man who gets to experience me in those ways would be my husband that He sends to me. God has been faithful and has helped me with my fleshly desires. He has and continues to be there in the midst of temptations and so graciously offers me a way of escape each time. 1 Corinthians 10:13 NLT says “The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure.” Jesus kept this promise, if He will do it for me, He can also and is willing to do it for you. Being abstinence has shown me that I indeed have authority over my flesh and that my flesh has no control over me and that with God, I can overcome anything. It has made me stronger and has brought me closer to my heavenly Father. I encourage all who believes in the Almighty God, Daughters of the Most High King; my sisters in Christ especially to hold out until the Lord sends you your husband. It may seem impossible but please be reminded that nothing is impossible with Jesus on your side.
In my single Christian girl season, I have barely dated. Prior to this, when I was out living my lukewarm life, it was not hard for me to get a date chile. I was either in a relationship or had a man or two (not too much lol) in my back pocket. I got the attention without even trying. Somebody was always taking a slide into my DMs lol. But let me tell you in these last two years, after making a commitment to God, not a soul worth me entertaining has entered them. I have tried the dating sites, nothing …. When before I was getting matches left and right. It was very strange to me at first, but then I started to realize that this is the work of God and He is protecting me. Once I gave my life back to Him, it was now His responsibility to cover and protect me, and He was doing just that. I also started to realize that this season is all about me and Him and instead of trying to build a relationship with mortal men, I needed to be focused on building a relationship with my eternal Father, Jesus. So, I made the decision to delete the app from my phone.
Not too long ago, the Lord allowed me to enter into a very short-lived relationship with a guy who I thought was good for me. I prayed about it constantly. The Lord said, no and ended it within 3 months. I’ve learned that when you seek the Lord and align your life with Him and His ways, He is going to protect you and get you out of things that do not align with His will and the plan He has for your life. He will also use those things for your good and allow you to learn and grow from them. While I felt like the relationship had potential and was a good thing, God had something better for me. Being single can suck at times, and what decent woman doesn’t want her person to do life with. I know that is what I want at least. While God has me single right now, it is for a reason and at the right time He will make it happen, (Isaiah 60:22) and I will have my person. He has shown me and gave me peace on knowing that I will be single until He is ready for me not to be single and I have no choice but to be ok with that. While I have my moments and have my times where I feel lonely and want that attention from man, God quickly reminds me that He is in control, and He has great plans for me. He has a man for me out there somewhere, I know this for a fact because He told me, and He has one for you too sister! If you are single and longing for your “Boaz”, seek and talk to the Lord about it and let Him take control. Don’t let anyone tell you or make you feel that you can’t go to the Lord about these things, because you can and He wants you to. His word says to acknowledge Him in ALL things (Proverbs 3:6), Cast your cares on Him because He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7), He say’s not to worry about anything but to pray about EVEYTHING (Philippians 4:6). Surrender it all to Him and sit back and pay attention to how He is strategically doing things. Me knowing that He isn’t allowing men to approach or pursue me gives me peace in knowing that my Father is protecting and looking out for me. He isn’t going to allow anything or anyone to get in the way of what He has planned for me. He knows His daughter, when I like a man I LIKE a man, and He isn’t going to allow one who isn’t meant for me to come in and reap the good, sweet benefit of me, Amen? Amen Hallelu!
In this season, use this time to be intimate with Jesus and allow Him to be the author of your love life, seek him, surrender and let Him do the work. You are a Daughter of the King, you deserve Thee very best!
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